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Well, the family drama continues...

chubbyalaskagriz

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This is the perfect place to vent- amongst dear friends who always understand and don't let us take things TOO seriosuly when stuff gets heavy...

I may have mentioned that my niece- who plays college softball, suffered a broken nose and cheekbone a couple weeks back when her face collided w/ a ball at a tournament in Florida. BAD. But after corrective surgery- plus plastic surgery, she's recovering nicely. The pain is all but gone, and she's back in class. And the school's coaching staff has acknowledged their wrong doing in staying in denial-mode and pushing her to "stay tough and play through the pain" before they realized the extent of her injuries.

What next?

My elderly Dad and his 3rd wife of 4-1/2 years seemed to have a good thing going. My Dad is a tough, crothchedy old bird, but Dolores never let on that she was becoming unhappy and feeling used and under-appreciated by Dad. Well, she left him last week. She cites his just being too difficult to please and live with. Hell- I knew that! But I thought she was just a glutton for punishment. Hell- they ordered a granite tombstone w/ both their names and birthdates on it just last month, for Khrissakes! Anyway, Dad is in poor health- he is deaf, is on oxygen 24/7 and has doctor appt's all the time. He's very dependent and needy. Dolores was a SAINT because she was quite the care-giver. Now on top of playing a lage role w/ my Mom and her medical needs and mental situation- having moved her closer to me- I may now likely have to step-up and be there much more for Dad too- who lives an hour away. Ugh! I love him and of course I'll be there for him, but DAMN.

Lastly? Have I told you guys before about my troublesome brother who's totally dysfunctional and in and out of jail? Well, after being released from Iowa State Correctional Facility 18 months ago, he was locked up again in April of last year on three charges including 3rd degree kidnapping and something sexual related. He don't tell us anything, but it looks like he forced some woman somewhere tried to force her to have sex, then held her against her will- or some such. Well, he was gonna get 60years for this IF he went to trial, BUT he pled guilty to avoid trial and for a lesser sentence and we've been waiting for him to go before a judge to find out exactly how long his reduced sentence will be- and where he'll be serving it. We've been told to expect 20-35 years. Well, my Dad, sister and I are all signed-up to receive e-mail notification when his jail status changes and we all on Wednesday received e-mail notifications that Craig has been RELEASED. No explanation- no further info. We don't know if "released" means he's no longer at the holding facility and has been sentenced and relocated to a prison- or if it means he's been totally turned loose and is free and on the street. UGH! Last time he was released Dad and Dolores had to get a protective order against him. He's that bad.

Anyway- sorry to burden with this mess. It just helps to type it all out and VENT. Thanks all! :)
 
Kev - you and your family are in my prayers - it's time to call on Higher Powers!


I have to second Mama on this one. Sex offenders and murderers are not high on our Governments list you know. Now if you failed to report some income on your 2009 1040 form you can expect to serve some serious time.
 
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Is there anyone you can contact to find out if he is released and what happened?
In this town we would contact the district attorney. If they cannot help you maybe they can't point you towards who can.

Personally I think sex offenders should be put under the jail.
 
Dang Kev just when I was beginning to think I had a full plate and couldn't take another minute of it!!! I feel for you and all you are having to deal with. I wish we lived closer to one another we could join some type of a "CareGivers" support group for gosh sakes:rolleyes: Lordy let's just go on a cruise and forget everything! I am packed and ready to run..........:eek:

Oh by the way my step-daughter and her family (5 of them total) got a house and should be outta here by sometime next week.....Ya' see there really is a God!!!!" I am no angel but honest to goodness I do think I am pretty awesome for not flipping out through all the havoc and crap I have had to deal with.............geez Louise! Now I only have to repaint the entire inside of the house, darn new house aint so new no mo :(
 
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I get strength, fortitude and sassiness from my Dad (hopefully I haven't inherited his whacko bull-headishness or his semi-abusive "do-it-for-me-because-I-said-so-NOW" attitude, though!) so I'm tough and hangin' in there and I'll be fine. But this all still has us scratchin' our heads and really wonderin'.

My sister and I have been on the phone all day long tryin' to get in touch with someone who can tell us more details. We still don't know if he was released and is out on the street- or transferred to prison to serve a sentence. We're not making contact w/ anyone and no one's returning our countless messages and now it's well after 5:00PM so we're figurin' we'll just hafta start all over in the morning. AGH!

My brother is trouble- with a BIG "T". He and I ain't been close since we were boys. He's truly dysfunctional and perplexing. We're all hanging in there- just trying to figure it all out and make some sort of sense of it all. Hopefully by the end of tomorrow- before the weekend - we'll know what's what and feel a bit more settled about it all.

Thanks for the good thoughts- and I'll keep ya'll posted! Hugz to ya's all! :)
 
I get strength, fortitude and sassiness from my Dad (hopefully I haven't inherited his whacko bull-headishness or his semi-abusive "do-it-for-me-because-I-said-so-NOW" attitude, though!) so I'm tough and hangin' in there and I'll be fine. But this all still has us scratchin' our heads and really wonderin'.

My sister and I have been on the phone all day long tryin' to get in touch with someone who can tell us more details. We still don't know if he was released and is out on the street- or transferred to prison to serve a sentence. We're not making contact w/ anyone and no one's returning our countless messages and now it's well after 5:00PM so we're figurin' we'll just hafta start all over in the morning. AGH!

My brother is trouble- with a BIG "T". He and I ain't been close since we were boys. He's truly dysfunctional and perplexing. We're all hanging in there- just trying to figure it all out and make some sort of sense of it all. Hopefully by the end of tomorrow- before the weekend - we'll know what's what and feel a bit more settled about it all.



Thanks for the good thoughts- and I'll keep ya'll posted! Hugz to ya's all! :)

I hope so for your sakes!!! Just be careful & be safe Kev!
 
Be careful Kev.
I cannot believe they never returned your calls. Out judicial system at its finest.
 
Kev - I'd make an emergency call to the governor. Tell him you NEED to know if he is out on the streets before they end up with a lawsui for him doing something to someone else. Call his office and tell everyone there that you don't want to see them getting sued because he is out and about.
They don't like lawsuits - makes them look real bad when it hits the news.
And speaking of the news - ask the goveror's office if you have to call all the newspapers and television stations, Fox News, and CNN to find out where he is?
Someone will give you the answer.
 
I just took on the US Postal system and won. They didn't like the words (and it was the truth) discrimination and discrimination against the elderly and disabled (as well as robbing her) - for something they did to my mom.
 
This'll be short as I'm being pulled in a few directions this afternoon (on top of having come home from work early during the night for feeling a bit under the weather), but I wanted to let you all know that we finally found out today that my brother HAS NOT been turned-loose onto the street. This is lotsa relief as u might imagine. The e-mail alerts we were receiving were incomplete. They were informing only that he'd been RELEASED- but they failed to also let us know that he was transferred to a secondary holding facility where he will wait until he learns which State Prison facilty he will serve out his sentence at. What a load-off for us!

Thank you all for listening as I shared concerns and vented about this, here. And thanks for all your helpful advice, prayers, thoughts and concern. SO MUCH APPRECIATED and valued! More soon... Hugs- to all- k. :)
 
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