This 4th of July I will be a 2 yrs. ex-smoker! I LOVED smoking, it was my favorite vice and I only smoked outside and was very consciencious about my nasty habit, which eventually made me quit. But I do believe everyone who smokes has the right to, but they should be conscienous and courteous of others who do not. My suggestion is that maybe you could strike up a conversation with Junior, and ask him if it could be at all possible for him to smoke outdoors on the deck, let him know straight up that you have terrible allergies and you are suffering with these horrid headaches, that after you explain what is happening to you it may be all you'll need to do, he may willingly take it outside! It would not hurt to politely discuss it with him. If you can keep it a pleasant conversation and be willing to accept his decision either way. I loved sitting on my deck or front porch to smoke it was "MY TIME" and my outside time to bird-watch or stare at the sky and just soak in the fresh air (when I wasn't inhaling my smoke or blowing smoke rings
) But then I met Eddie (an asthmatic) and decided I would quit when I saw how he would struggle for a breath during an attack and here I was a perfectly healthy woman just inviting health problems if I did not stop this stupid habit. So I quit. Funny thing my total obsession with not smelling like smoke I would wash my hands after having a smoke, and brush my teeth and Eddie said I never smelled of ciagette smoke, plus I guess smoking outside did not allow it to permeate my clothes. But I guess society and laws and the increased "pressure" from all the different factors I just opted to quit, and I am so VERY THANKFUL I did and could quit! It is a very hard habit to break, and an addiction that is unbelieveable! I quit by weaning myself away from cigarettes by puffing on Black & Mild cigars every now & then until I no longer even needed them. The Black & Milds were not addicting to me like cigarettes were, I loved them too, but they do not "HOOK" you like cigarettes. I am sorry to be so LONG WINDED about this subject but just felt I should mention it just in case anyone out there reading this may be contemplating quitting, and I am sharing what helped me and may help you too???
But I do feel sorry for your situation Janie! My grandmother, and Mom smoked and I was always stuck in the room or car with them as a child so I know how you feel, also my Grandma smoked in the grocery store it was not banned and no one ever asked her to put her cig out but I used to feel embarressed when she would light up in the grocery store and flick her ashes on the floor. I also agree with Jafo about the perfume thing IT ABSOLUTELY KILLS MY SINUS'S and gives me screaming sinus headaches. Good Lord a small squirt on your wrist is quite a plenty! I have customers that do not know that a little squirt is all it takes when they leave I am sick with a nasty headache! I read somewhere that women who are depressed over-use perfume, so I just figure they must suffer from depression
I just always remembered my other grandmothers theory of not needing to "smell like a French Whore" and that was all I needed to learn to use perfume in moderation if at all
Thank God for our Grandparents
Yet she also smoked like a chimney!!!! I was surrounded by smokers